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**samejamesbond** · 10-17-2010, 03:56 AM

Earlier today a guy I never met before in my life approached me claiming I was
bothering his girlfriend and made it clear he wasn't happy about it.

I was completely confused which made it worse, I know his girlfriend because she
lives down the hall and all I do is say hi or have a casual conversation with her. I
never made any moves on her because I thought she was dating another guy at the
dorm and that wouldn't be the right thing to do.

I even told him if she had any problem with me, I would completely understand,
but he then told me that I would deal with him if anything went wrong.

I never had anything like this happen to me before, so I have no clue what to do...

I appreciate any help you guys can give me.

**Slime Slayer** · 10-17-2010, 04:18 AM

Weird, just don't talk to her anymore I guess.

**Tails** · 10-17-2010, 04:52 AM

I honestly wouldn't know what to do myself, Cassidy's seems most logical.

**Slime Slayer** · 10-17-2010, 05:13 AM

Am I correct in assuming this guy might be tougher than you? There's a good chance that he's blowing this thing out of proportion to make himself look like a tough guy on campus, at your expense.
There's always the option of screwing him over via some sort of prank, make sure it's fool proof that you won't get caught. You could put a little poop on his door knob, inject some super glue into the lock on his door, find the fuse box and cut his power regularly... these are just of the top of my head, I'm sure we could come up with something great collectively.

Whatever you do remember that this is college, the funnest time of your life, don't let some retard ruin it for you.

**DrunkN** · 10-17-2010, 05:16 AM

DAG EM!

No, don't actually do that. Just avoid unnecessary conversations with her. Cassidy knows the ladies.

**Kugyince** · 10-17-2010, 07:53 AM

Dude sounds hyper possessive. There's hundreds of chickas on campus, just stay away from this one.

**Demon-Mask** · 10-17-2010, 12:23 PM

You could always kick the guy's ass.
Or try to figure it out logically with the guy, explain that you are not messing around with his girlfriend.
You could just avoid them both altogether as well.

There are a lot of things that you could do, it just depends on what is more fitting to you.

**kiwinavega** · 10-17-2010, 01:21 PM

Not worth getting grief over. I suppose if it was me and I was quite annoyed, I'd probably catch them both together and actually make it clear that a) she didn't interest me b) he didn't intimidate me and c) that I have better things to do than get involved with people so unhinged they want to try and create something out of nothing to feed their own egos and self importance. Of course, it could be that this girl is one of those who gets her kicks out of getting guys to act macho on her behalf and has completely fabricated something. It's a way of exercising control by manipulating others. Most girls aren't like this.

Whatever you do - or don't do - don't sweat it. Life is full of people who will try and bring you down in one way or another. The best thing to do in my view is remind yourself that they probably behave like that as they are insecure and unhappy. Do things to make yourself happy and at peace, it's the best way not to become a jerk.

One other thing - you know that saying? The best way to fight fire is with fire? It is complete nonsense. Fight fire with water.

**Kong** · 10-17-2010, 01:24 PM

1. Can he most likely kick your ass?
2. Do you care about this girl?

If first is yes and second is no, then easy, just tell them to screw off and never talk to you again. If you have different answers to those questions then it gets more tricky.

Either way, unless you did something creepy, then either the girl is playing some kind of catty game or the guy is playing some kind of macho game or both, and you shouldn't want any part of that.

**jim5cents** · 10-17-2010, 01:42 PM

Did he look like this?

First, the guy sounds like a tool. Second, any girl that would date a tool isn't worth it.

To go along with Cassidy's prank ideas, if his door opens in, then you lean a bucket of water/mud/iodine/bleach against the door.

**elrod21** · 10-17-2010, 03:07 PM

I say it is best to just avoid the girl and him. As was already said there are lots of other people there for you to relate to.

**StarfoxFan2009** · 10-17-2010, 03:51 PM

I would just avoid them or if he gets in your face again just walk away. If he punches you you could always call the police or security and have him sent away. I hope this is the only confrontation you encounter

**CatalystiCam** · 10-17-2010, 04:44 PM

I'm only in high school and it's all just messing around and generally a big joke. If you treat the bugging as a joke and joke around in return then people won't bother you but you treat it badly and flip out and go insane over it than that might be just what they're looking for. People like to pick on the weak links... A lot of people so you can't be one of those weak links.

However, this case seems to be different and personally I wouldn't jump to any conclusions either way. Wait it out, act like you don't care for starters and if it stops then that means he was probably just toying with you.

There is the possibility that it is serious and this guy is one of those super protective jocks and best not mess with those scenarios.

Also the possibility that he just likes to fight and will do anything to get in fights.

Edit: this is my best guesses, I've never encountered a situation like this but I have encountered a lot of others that wound up being people seeing if they can toy with me as it is my first year here because I moved.

**samejamesbond** · 10-17-2010, 05:21 PM

Thanks guys, I decided to just act normal, if she says hi I'll just say hi, but avoid major
conversation unless it's serious, and I'd appologize if she was offended.

As for him, I'll just be friendly and if things get worse, my friends have told me they'd help me out.

**Dudebro** · 10-17-2010, 08:12 PM

Time to play devils advocate, someone has to eventually.

Quote:

all I do is say hi or have a casual conversation with her

It might seem casual and innocent to you but maybe she's uncomfortable and too shy to let you know that. Perhaps she caught you checking out her rack or maybe you just gave off some body language you weren't aware of.

I've seen this happen plenty of times and the guy is almost always completely unaware of how creepy he seems to the girl. Naturally she'd tell her boyfriend and he'd feel obligated to defend her, I know I would. If that's what's happening then it really wouldn't be your fault, we're all just human. My advice is the same as everyone else - avoid them both and let them be miserable together.

**samejamesbond** · 10-17-2010, 10:08 PM

Now I'm really confused, today she walked up to my room (which she knows is mine) and had
a casual conversation with my roommate.

If she was really bothered by me, wouldn't she avoid me at all costs?

Unless he's making up the story...

**Dudebro** · 10-17-2010, 10:19 PM

Maybe she was testing you to see if you ignored her bf? She might just be trying to get guys to fight over her. Either way I'd just completely ignore her. Bonus points if that pisses her off.

**samejamesbond** · 10-17-2010, 10:23 PM

My RA just pulled me out of my room to talk with her, she admited she was friends with me
but felt that I was trying to date her while she still had a boyfriend and felt unconfirtable.

I told her I had no idea, and I appologized and told her if she feels that way it'd be better if we
didn't keep it to ourselves to prevent another mess like this.

She told me that she'll straigten out her boyfriend, she admited he's overprotective.

**Dudebro** · 10-17-2010, 10:43 PM

I hate to say I told you so but, I told you so.

**samejamesbond** · 10-17-2010, 10:45 PM

Of Course you were.
Never said you were wrong did I?

**jim5cents** · 10-17-2010, 10:46 PM

Yeah, you should still prank him.

**Slime Slayer** · 10-17-2010, 10:47 PM

A little poop on the doorknob won't hurt.

**samejamesbond** · 10-17-2010, 10:55 PM

Yeah, that's a smart idea...
Causing problems when everything is fine.

**Dudebro** · 10-17-2010, 10:55 PM

If you are gonna prank him I'd wait a little while so you aren't so fresh on his mind.

Btw why did your RA pull you out to talk about it? I'm just curious if you said something or one of them.

**samejamesbond** · 10-17-2010, 10:56 PM

I told my friends about it, he just happened to be in the room.