Need Help

[alohaex]

Ok I hope I'm not of place for putting this up but I wanted to ask for help from my friends. I am now in my first serious relationship and I would like some advice on what to do how to act etc... Any help would be appreciated and Mahalo you all :D

[warghoul]

That's simple be you.

[alohaex]

lol yeah that all I have been hearing lately but is that enough?

[ZedIsDead]

You're a really nice guy. Just do what you feel is right.

[Dudebro]

Yeah there's not much advice we can give besides that. Just be yourself, be understanding and willing to listen.

[Demon-Mask]

Be yourself, don't be too possessive, try to keep conversation flowing naturally on dates, don't let it get awkward. It's all pretty basic, if you do things that feel right, it should work out.

[Slime Slayer]

To elaborate on the importance of being yourself, it's not about trying to wow them, it's about compatability. If this person does'nt like your true character, then the relationship was over before it started and it's better to realise that as early on as possible. Now I'm not saying you should'nt wine them and dine them and treat them like gold, just keep your personality while you do it.

[Demon-Mask]

Yeah, don't show off too much, but don't come off as bland, don't just act how the situation dictates without allowing your personality to show through.
Being yourself is about knowing when, where and how to be yourself. It sounds more complicated than it is. At a fancy, formal dinner, be formal while still being yourself to an extent. That kind of thing. You'll get it down, it comes naturally.

[Kong]

I agree with Steven.

[Dudebro]

Putting out doesn't hurt either. ;)

[alohaex]

Thanks all keep the advice coming I need all the help I get. He seems to find me very charming and kind which he likes and is how I am so I'm glad :D

[Squall]

At the risk of sounding like a Kingdom Hearts character, I've always found that when you have someone that close to your heart, you should listen to it! If you listen to your heart, you'll show yourself and not just a front, a mask.

Hope that helps!

[alohaex]

Well I was myself and he still dumped me thanks for the help anyway guys

[Tails]

What happened, Aloha? Sorry to hear.

[alohaex]

I don't really know myself met up with him and he said he is dumping me cause I am to needy and that was that :(

[Tails]

Well, screw him.

[Slime Slayer]

You'll get the next one.

[thetedster]

Makes you feel better I was crushed one time after a 2 year relationship. Devestated.


But life went on, and I found another girl :-)

[alohaex]

Thank guys :) it helps knowing I have people on my side

[Dudebro]

Did he say why he thought you were needy? Not to pry but sometimes people say stuff like that as an excuse. IF you were being too needy then you just need to relax and not cling to people, give them room to breath.

[alohaex]

He really didn't say. But as you said Dudebro most of my friends are saying he used it as a excusse to do what he wants and to not have me around cause they saw him talking to his friends and they were planning something.

[Dudebro]

So it was like a one night stand? I really don't mean to pry and have you spill your personal life on the forum I'm just curious. If he was just looking to get laid then I'm sorry but that does happen from time to time and there's not much you can do except avoid him and don't let it bother you.

[Demon-Mask]

You'll get the next one, don't worry. There are always more fish in the sea, to use that tired, old metaphor.

[Dudebro]

Since he lives in Hawaii there's lots of sea around him to find those fish!

[Demon-Mask]

That works in the literal sense and the metaphorical sense.

[alohaex]

So it was like a one night stand? I really don't mean to pry and have you spill your personal life on the forum I'm just curious. If he was just looking to get laid then I'm sorry but that does happen from time to time and there's not much you can do except avoid him and don't let it bother you.

Well I'm a little confused myself to be honest he went around telling all his friends I made him happy and introduced me as his boyfriend then he up and does this even his friends (the ones he never make plans with but know him well) are confused that he did this themselves


You'll get the next one, don't worry. There are always more fish in the sea, to use that tired, old metaphor.

Since he lives in Hawaii there's lots of sea around him to find those fish!

That works in the literal sense and the metaphorical sense.

:lol: someone give me a fishing pole stat

[Tails]

:lol: someone give me a fishing pole stathttp://i1092.photobucket.com/albums/i414/unrealodin/part%207/PokemonRedUES05.png

[alohaex]

:D thanks Tails